skinreading.
sat on the balcony on the 48th floor. people are like dots from up here.
but you can still tell by the little specs what type of person they are.
and it's even easier up close.
your body runs a background check on everyone you meet. that's why first impressions count. because every meet AFTER you meet that person is compared to the first time you saw them. that's just anchoring bias.
and the numbers don't matter too much. but 13 milliseconds is how long it takes for you to file them in a "category"
threat. opportunity. friend. predator. useful. attractive. unattractive. worthy of respect.
once you notice this you stop going off first impressions. and rather you look for facts.
and this is done through skinreading. which is my version of psychoanalysis.
but what's interesting is people unconsciously already do this. they can "feel" if something is off. but the brain wants everything to go right. so it just ignores it. and buries the instinct.
but once you make this conscious. you can figure out peoples traumas from just reading their skin. which of course. is useful.
the words people speak is fake. the tone is easily faked. the performance is faked. to read skin is extremely hard to fake. unless you've specifically trained yourself in it.
appearance is faked. makeup. clothes. it's all part of a personality people want to show to the world to meet some type of standards. for men. it's to attract girls. all the time. the male peacocks are the flashy looking ones.
but girls do this too. not even to attract men. but to convey some type of personality.
they're like dolls. they subconsciously know that the appearance is what matters most. so they play into a certain "archetype" of girl.
but that's very surface. because girls can dress emo and be very feminist. but deep down they want to submit. but that's obvious.
most guys will read the surface. but digging deeper is where the gold is.
they can hold up a character until you say something that breaks them out of that character. then depending on a few factors like your energy. how attractive you are. they run or stay.
but either way. let's talk about how it works underneath the costume.
there's small signals like nervous laughs. little jokes. etc.
that's "deflecting" whatever was said off the tennis racket of the persona. so it doesn't hit too close to the ego. because that'd hurt.
i'm not gonna talk about specific facial cues to look for. because i'm not autistic enough.
but it is all about temperament. temperament is very hard to control. for anyone.
if someone is "cool" they are calm. if someone is "fiesty" they are spicy. everything is to do with temperature in a metaphorical sense.
it's all built up energy. if someone is sitting there in the corner quiet. but they have their lips tucked in. they want to say something. but they're physically restraining themselves for SOME reason. they unconsciously heard something and want to talk about it. or give an opinion. or say something to someone. they just won't.
which then it goes deeper. into the wound. you find out WHY they do that.
there are cues like someone raising their eyebrows. they feel like they are in some type of danger. because they unconsciously are opening their eyelids more to see their surroundings. these are the small things that you realise when you track a girls anxiety.
cats do the same thing. if they blink very slowly. that shows trust. if they are wide eyed. they're scared.
i can't teach you every single cue. because i can't name them off the top of my head. but the best way is to track it down to the primal system.
you unconsciously recognise a facial expression. you track it down to "what does this mean?"
for example. a girl throws a shit test at you. "don't you feel… xyz about that?"
they squint their eyes unconsciously. because they are seeing how you are reacting inside. it's a survival mechanism for them. to see if you really are who you say you are. to make sure you're not weak. or not a serial killer.
which is why psychopathic men usually do great with girls. superficial charm. since if you can't feel. there's nothing that triggers her circuits.
i like to test boundaries. on a date sometimes i'll start with a comment to monitor their anxiety.
"why are your tits out, are you a whore?"
"they're not out!!!"
i don't say anything and reach to zip them up. if they jump back a little. ok. her anxiety is high. i need to slow my tone. slow my movements. play xanax mode.
sometimes you get an exhale when you go that forward. a deep one. means she's a little wet off that. body needed a release.
and if she has that. THAT early. 5 mins on a first date. she's likely a whore. which makes your job funner.
same thing applies to sales calls. it's good its video calls. because you can actually track what they are feeling.
you can see physically if they are smiling. if they're fake smiling as part of an act. or if they're in business mode. or friend mode.
or you could even cross an intrusive question on their business. see if they make a certain expression. pull back. change their voice tone. eyebrows raise. etc. you can get creative.
this is the way to see the wound in someone.
for girls you can call one your daughter and see how she reacts, if it's an "ewww" and she looks around to see if anyones watching. then leans a little closer, or comes back with a softer tone. that's your biggest indicator. she unconsciously wants it.
plays like this are everywhere. everyone is broadcasting hidden signals HOPING you'll see them.
since being seen is the most addictive thing on the planet.
but no one can see them.
and if you do. good. that's a USP.
the full manual is in the paid email. how to actually weaponise skinreading. the counter-read. signal collision. anxiety management. the full stack. for girls/biz.
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